Mr. Satchmo
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that's pretty much what my girlfriend and I are going though now, her parents - especially her dad were mentally abusive and controlling, such that he would follow her and stalk here everywhere and they would try to control her and keep her from going to college because they were afraid she would have a mind of their own.
For the previous 20 years, her dad decided to leave his job for selfish reasons and have his family live in poverty in a trashed mobile home while he would drive around town talking with other people and treating strangers better than his own family-which he mentioned every day to his family by saying " these strangers I meet are more family to me than my family." and he always stayed away from any work or responsibility while the family of 5 starved and her mom labored day after day to pay the bills. On top of that he became a hoarder and had them living in a trashed mobile home filled to the rough with trash and all he would do was spend their money on useless crap like hundreds of flashlights and junk etc. Her family got used to living like this and thought it was normal. Her mom acted like a controlled and mentally abused wife and never did anything about it and basically they would control there kids and make them think that the outside world was evil and that their dream should be to live like them.
My girlfriend decided to go to college despite her parents wishes and before she was a timid pushover that would let everyone trample her because that's what she was taught all her life and even in college her dad would stalk her instead of getting a job. Finally she met me and my parents and realized what life is really supposed to be like so as eh started becoming more confident her parents became angrier and angrier and started causing me of controlling her and putting evil thoughts in her mind but in reality I was only showing her what life should be like.
Her dad hates me and treats me like crap and has gone as far as accusing me to the rest of his family that I am controlling and abusive to her and that he was scared for his daughter and caused so much crap for me all because his daughter realized that everything they taught her was wrong- luckily her whole rest of the family know me well and know that her dad was causing crap and was lying but it still was a painful time.
She is learning to stop letting her parents take control of her life and it has been tough especially when her dad tries to stalk her- I have gotten in some serious confrontations with him where I'm afraid he's going to Hurt one of us and all so he can can control his family and make himself feel better about himself. We are going to get married in the next year and it has been hard for us with her father causing so many problems- so many that I can't even begin to explain them here.
she's reached that point where she understands that her relationship with them is hurting her more than. Benefitting her and we don't know what to do, do we cut that relationship off or do we take the chance? He still rules her older sisters life even though she's married and has children so I'm afraid of what he may do
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that's pretty much what my girlfriend and I are going though now, her parents - especially her dad were mentally abusive and controlling, such that he would follow her and stalk here everywhere and they would try to control her and keep her from going to college because they were afraid she would have a mind of their own.
For the previous 20 years, her dad decided to leave his job for selfish reasons and have his family live in poverty in a trashed mobile home while he would drive around town talking with other people and treating strangers better than his own family-which he mentioned every day to his family by saying " these strangers I meet are more family to me than my family." and he always stayed away from any work or responsibility while the family of 5 starved and her mom labored day after day to pay the bills. On top of that he became a hoarder and had them living in a trashed mobile home filled to the rough with trash and all he would do was spend their money on useless crap like hundreds of flashlights and junk etc. Her family got used to living like this and thought it was normal. Her mom acted like a controlled and mentally abused wife and never did anything about it and basically they would control there kids and make them think that the outside world was evil and that their dream should be to live like them.
My girlfriend decided to go to college despite her parents wishes and before she was a timid pushover that would let everyone trample her because that's what she was taught all her life and even in college her dad would stalk her instead of getting a job. Finally she met me and my parents and realized what life is really supposed to be like so as eh started becoming more confident her parents became angrier and angrier and started causing me of controlling her and putting evil thoughts in her mind but in reality I was only showing her what life should be like.
Her dad hates me and treats me like crap and has gone as far as accusing me to the rest of his family that I am controlling and abusive to her and that he was scared for his daughter and caused so much crap for me all because his daughter realized that everything they taught her was wrong- luckily her whole rest of the family know me well and know that her dad was causing crap and was lying but it still was a painful time.
She is learning to stop letting her parents take control of her life and it has been tough especially when her dad tries to stalk her- I have gotten in some serious confrontations with him where I'm afraid he's going to Hurt one of us and all so he can can control his family and make himself feel better about himself. We are going to get married in the next year and it has been hard for us with her father causing so many problems- so many that I can't even begin to explain them here.
she's reached that point where she understands that her relationship with them is hurting her more than. Benefitting her and we don't know what to do, do we cut that relationship off or do we take the chance? He still rules her older sisters life even though she's married and has children so I'm afraid of what he may do
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