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  • #16
    I'd speak to a lawyer for advice, if possible.

    By not filing a report against her, I'm wondering if down the road Family Court may allow her to turn the tables as to (as ridiculous as it sounds) abandonment on your part. Yes she left but absent verifiable documentation as to your disagreement with her actions and irrefutable attempts to retrieve your kids, who knows?

    If custody of the kids may be a future battle that you may face, I'd seek the advice of an expert now so you may be better prepared for the unexpected.

    I can only speak to my experience in NY. There, all she'd have to do is articulate (even making it up) that you are/were a danger to her and/or the kids and the benefit of the doubt would slide immediately to her favor. Domestic Incident reports would be filed, criminal complaint reports if necessary, child welfare would be notified. Ultimately, absent of an agreement between the parents, family court would hear the case and decide temporary custody.
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    • #17
      Thinking of the kids first and everyones health.....hope it all works out man.
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      • #18
        Sorry to hear you are going through this man. Hoping everything will get worked out in the end. Hopefully everyone can put the kids first and you and her can come to a good resolution.

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        • #19
          Sorry to hear that. Can't say I've ever been in that position from the husband point of view, but I've experienced much of that as a kid.

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          • #20
            Unimaginable! Sorry to hear that you're going through this. Hope it will all work out. Hang in there.

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            • #21
              OMG! I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you get some answers soon.

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              • #22
                Good luck getting through this. I hope your kids will be okay.
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                • #23
                  Hoping everything is looking up for you in the near future, Smiter.
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                  • #24
                    Thanks all. It’s been a tough week.

                    For those wondering I do have an appt Tuesday AM with an attorney. I’d hope to avoid using him, but if it comes down to it, I snagged the best in town first.

                    I appreciate the support though, that’s for sure.

                    I couldn’t bring myself to pull the trigger on filing the police report since they would investigate and then it would be up to the law director to press charges. May or may not have happened but if it did it sure wouldn’t have been in the kids best interests.

                    I just had my first conversation with her since this happened and I think my hopes of anything being amicable just went out the window. I was calm and measured but I guess I didn’t realize how much she hated me just for being me. I’m far from perfect (look up my posts,-I’ll generally rat myself out when I jack something up), but I’ve never ever been in any way abusive to any of them. I love my kids more than anything and mainly just miss them. I did at least get to see them, they spent the night in my big empty house last night and left around 2 today.

                    I really hate this.
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                    • #25
                      I hate it for you. As someone who has litigated far too many of this type case, and seen what it does to kids most every time, this sucks big time. My experience has been that the kids will assume they did something wrong. I know you know this but I’ll say it anyway - kids are not bargaining chips and aren’t leverage. Don’t put them in the middle. Talk to your kids and let then know it’s not their fault in any shape, form or fashion and that you love them no matter what. The rest of this deal will play out one way or another.
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                      • #26
                        Originally posted by OGputtnfool View Post
                        Sorry to hear that. Can't say I've ever been in that position from the husband point of view, but I've experienced much of that as a kid.

                        If you ever need to chat, PM me a number. I'm available 24/7.

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                        I’ll take you up on that, OG. I won’t bug you tonight but I’d really like to hear it from the kids POV. That’s what I’m most concerned about as that’s what’s most important to me. Doing what’s best for them.
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                        • #27
                          Originally posted by Parrot View Post
                          I hate it for you. As someone who has litigated far too many of this type case, and seen what it does to kids most every time, this sucks big time. My experience has been that the kids will assume they did something wrong. I know you know this but I’ll say it anyway - kids are bargaining chips and aren’t leverage. Don’t put them in the middle. Talk to your kids and let then know it’s not their fault in any shape, form or fashion and that you love them no matter what. The rest of this deal will play out one way or another.
                          Thank you. I made the mistake of speaking with her tonight, first time since before she left. Ugh. When we’d spoke in the past (prior to her leaving) it was always about shared parenting and what’s best for the kids. That doesn’t seem to be as big of a priority to her anymore, as screwing me over seems her number one agenda.

                          I texted my kids every night, even when I knew they weren’t getting the texts, telling them I’m sorry they’re going through this and that I love and miss them. I hate that they’re going through this. My parents divorced when I was an adult and when they told me, almost 20 years ago, that was the last time I cried as an adult until I got home Sunday. I lived 100 miles from them and was on my own at that point and it still upset me.

                          Life will go on, but as bad as I feel for me, I feel worse for them. Now I’m left wondering why I didn’t tell everyone what was going on with my health? This may have all been avoided, at least until they were old enough to be on their own. But there’s no going back now. I’ve made that decision and just like hers, it can’t be undone.
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                          • #28
                            Originally posted by Smiter View Post
                            Thank you. I made the mistake of speaking with her tonight, first time since before she left. Ugh. When we’d spoke in the past (prior to her leaving) it was always about shared parenting and what’s best for the kids. That doesn’t seem to be as big of a priority to her anymore, as screwing me over seems her number one agenda.

                            I texted my kids every night, even when I knew they weren’t getting the texts, telling them I’m sorry they’re going through this and that I love and miss them. I hate that they’re going through this. My parents divorced when I was an adult and when they told me, almost 20 years ago, that was the last time I cried as an adult until I got home Sunday. I lived 100 miles from them and was on my own at that point and it still upset me.

                            Life will go on, but as bad as I feel for me, I feel worse for them. Now I’m left wondering why I didn’t tell everyone what was going on with my health? This may have all been avoided, at least until they were old enough to be on their own. But there’s no going back now. I’ve made that decision and just like hers, it can’t be undone.
                            Shoot me a PM if you need another ear to bend. I don’t have many answers but, through life’s experiences, in a lot of cases, I can share with you what makes sh&t worse.
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                            • #29
                              Wishing you all the best. You've been given among the toughest hands anyone has to play, but you can get through this.
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                              • #30
                                I'm so sorry to hear that Smiter. Saying extra prayers for you and your kids.

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