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Wow....what a gut punch. I'm really hoping the best for you and your kids.
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About to see the attorney... sitting in office now. Hope to have some answers shortly.
About to see the attorney... sitting in office now. Hope to have some answers shortly.
About to see the attorney... sitting in office now. Hope to have some answers shortly.
Attorneys can fix it all.... said the attorney.
Best of luck today Smiter.
To be honest, there is nothing you have said in this thread that leads me to believe option 1 will work. I believe you are looking at option 2 or 3. How she left with the kids doesn’t seem like this will be an easy split. I am sorry you are in this situation.
My parents had a nasty divorce when I was 7. I still remember vivid details regarding terrible things that happened before and after the split and my mom passed away 11 years ago. It is tough on everyone and making the kids switch schools is going to make it worse, in my opinion. They need their friends to help them through this and maybe option 2 lawyers can talk her into it as being in the best interest of the kids?
No matter what happens, it will turn out ok. The kids will deal with it even if they must move. I am probably just pointing out the obvious that they would be better off in their school.
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Wow, sorry to hear the way this is going, Smiter. I'll be praying for you and your kids.
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Yeah supposedly that was their only requirement when she told them about it. Now it only happens if 1. They get lucky in the spring for open enrollment or 2. I stay a Resident. If she gets custody there is zero chance I can keep the house short of winning the lottery based on the estimated mommy/child support my attorney gave me.
They’re only hearing one side of this, which is crap as I’m not bad-mouthing her to them but she is. I’m hating this more and more. I’ve had nasty’ish texts from my two oldest in the past hour or so. My oldest told me to stop being mean to his mom about stupid stuff???? I told him “buddy, sorry you’re being dragged into this but I want you to read every text message sent and received since last Sunday next time I see you”. All it shows is me wanting an amicable end and what’s best for the boys.
So obviously she’s feeding them a line of crap. Which pisses me off because I’ll tell them the truth but even as angry at her I am, I will NOT use the kids as pawns in this. I certainly am not going to tell them blatant lies about her.
Option 3 is looking like it might be the only option.
Option 3 might be the only option. In MA once the divorce decree is done it is very hard to redo. So don't go cheap if it will hurt you and not get what you want. This may sound cruel but this will be a war. Your Ex sounds very similar to mine and it might be common as a parent. My Ex was depressed and drank and stayed in the bedroom watching TV, she did not work. Everything fell on me. I felt like I was "doing time" until the kids got older. Be civil but also know the law and get all that you legally should.
As somebody else said if she has done all of this there will be no negotiating with her. You can not negotiate with somebody who lacks reason. And by all means if she realizes she made a mistake 6 months from now do not take her back. It sounds like both of you have been unhappy. I did not want to put my kids through the roller coaster of they are back together/no they're not.
Sorry if I sound mean or short, it was 9 years ago and the mess that it was back then was daily, but I always knew it would be better and it steadily got better.
Again best of luck and stay strong!
Prudent warning. But everything I've read has been respectful and measured.Hey smiter I just as thinking, I don't know of things posted on here could be used as evidence in the proceedings.. just fyi/caution
Not that you're saying anything really bad but I don't know what begs considered as slander ya know
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Yeah I felt so too, but I don't know how a legal counsel could spin itPrudent warning. But everything I've read has been respectful and measured.