Sorry to hear that.
IUI / IVF Process
Sorry to hear that.
So sorry to hear this man. Just devastating
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We are giving it another natural go before IVf... wife is pregnant, about 7 weeks but signs of another miscarriage this evening... praying we can find some calm seas in this seemingly perpetual storm
I'm sorry this is happening. It is heart-wrenching, I know!
Yesterday was another implant day. Here is hoping in 2 weeks we get good news!
Hmm I missed this when it was posted. My wife and I were both married previously and she has a (currently) 17 year old from it and I had no children but wanted them.
Once we got past the initial dating stages and into something a bit more serious, we talked kids and she was always up for it (mind you at this point we're both late 20s). However she told me that after her first, her and her ex tried for another but it didn't happen. This included testing with her OB and everything always looked good. BUT she wanted me to be aware in case there was something preventing her from having more children.
Fast forward to us being married - waiting a few years and finally deciding it was time. So we tried naturally, didn't work, then we tried chlomid (fertility drugs), no good there either. At that point it'd been a year + and her doctor at least suggest we see a specialist. So we did.
I got tested, she got re-tested - all good. Our doctor called it "unexplained infertility" and she suggested the next step is laproscopic surgery on the wife to take a look and see how the uterus, fallopian tubes, etc all look. Now mind at this time, my insurance is high deductible, and non-IVF covering (although meds were cheap at the least at this point). So we had enough saved in a HSA to cover the remainer of our high deductible so we went forward with that just to have answers.
Surgery ends, the doc comes out while the wife is recovering from the anesthesia and let's me know that the wife's uterus looks fine but her fallopian tubes are shot. For some reason the opening of both (to the uterus) are literally swollen/scarred shut. There's no explanation for why - but it was likely some kind of hefty infection that the wife didn't know about.
So the wife recovers and I let her know what the doc says and we go in later that week for a follow up / discuss options.
Facts are:
- doc could go in and open the tubes but its very likely they'll just close up again
- no natural conception for us at this point (including IUI)
So we had previously talked (wife and I) and decided that there was no way we'd be able to afford the 15-20k for a single IVF attempt. Talking to the doc we told her this and she asks why we thought it was that much. Not including necessary meds it'd cost us 8k (I had *just* gotten a bonus that would cover nearly all of that). We had them check on our insurance and her meds would run us the $30 copay so we could handle that too.
We go through the process and harvesting and end up with 7 eggs. Less than the doc had hoped for based on ultrasounds, but hopefully plenty to try. I do my deed and they get to fertilizing and we wait.
When all was said and done we had ONE single egg that fertilized and continued to split/grow as necessary. So they implant wifey and five years later we have :
Pure luck in our case and it was our only attempt. Many nights of administering shots to the wife and dealing the heavy hormone swings. Along with many long conversations about what if and the like. Totally worth it and fortunate that we could work it out financially as well.
Once we got past the initial dating stages and into something a bit more serious, we talked kids and she was always up for it (mind you at this point we're both late 20s). However she told me that after her first, her and her ex tried for another but it didn't happen. This included testing with her OB and everything always looked good. BUT she wanted me to be aware in case there was something preventing her from having more children.
Fast forward to us being married - waiting a few years and finally deciding it was time. So we tried naturally, didn't work, then we tried chlomid (fertility drugs), no good there either. At that point it'd been a year + and her doctor at least suggest we see a specialist. So we did.
I got tested, she got re-tested - all good. Our doctor called it "unexplained infertility" and she suggested the next step is laproscopic surgery on the wife to take a look and see how the uterus, fallopian tubes, etc all look. Now mind at this time, my insurance is high deductible, and non-IVF covering (although meds were cheap at the least at this point). So we had enough saved in a HSA to cover the remainer of our high deductible so we went forward with that just to have answers.
Surgery ends, the doc comes out while the wife is recovering from the anesthesia and let's me know that the wife's uterus looks fine but her fallopian tubes are shot. For some reason the opening of both (to the uterus) are literally swollen/scarred shut. There's no explanation for why - but it was likely some kind of hefty infection that the wife didn't know about.
So the wife recovers and I let her know what the doc says and we go in later that week for a follow up / discuss options.
Facts are:
- doc could go in and open the tubes but its very likely they'll just close up again
- no natural conception for us at this point (including IUI)
So we had previously talked (wife and I) and decided that there was no way we'd be able to afford the 15-20k for a single IVF attempt. Talking to the doc we told her this and she asks why we thought it was that much. Not including necessary meds it'd cost us 8k (I had *just* gotten a bonus that would cover nearly all of that). We had them check on our insurance and her meds would run us the $30 copay so we could handle that too.
We go through the process and harvesting and end up with 7 eggs. Less than the doc had hoped for based on ultrasounds, but hopefully plenty to try. I do my deed and they get to fertilizing and we wait.
When all was said and done we had ONE single egg that fertilized and continued to split/grow as necessary. So they implant wifey and five years later we have :
Pure luck in our case and it was our only attempt. Many nights of administering shots to the wife and dealing the heavy hormone swings. Along with many long conversations about what if and the like. Totally worth it and fortunate that we could work it out financially as well.
Lol, what a coincidence, we have a pic like that too @etakmit
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haha braddman19 and maxw72 that's great.
So last week, we had an appointment.
That 7 week appointment.
The one where you get to see a heartbeat, that you can't hear yet.
The one where you get to see the little peanut, who you can't wait to meet.
8 weeks ago, I took the phone call while standing in a pizza joint picking up lunch.
The wife doesn't take the call, as she is usually unavailable at work when that call might come.
To say we are excited, is beyond words. Guarded, nervous, scared out of my mind to be expecting our second child.
That 7 week appointment.
The one where you get to see a heartbeat, that you can't hear yet.
The one where you get to see the little peanut, who you can't wait to meet.
8 weeks ago, I took the phone call while standing in a pizza joint picking up lunch.
The wife doesn't take the call, as she is usually unavailable at work when that call might come.
To say we are excited, is beyond words. Guarded, nervous, scared out of my mind to be expecting our second child.
Congrats. One of my best friends went through this and they have a beautiful 6 year old.
Friends just announced they tried many different times and different ways... They are expecting I'm 2021....