Thought I would make a post and provide an update as to what my wife and I have been dealing with as I know I have spoken with a few of you about this before. We've had 3 miscarriages with the most recent one back in July of 2015 and it was especially tough on her. Since then we've not had any luck. Recently we switched to a new "lady doctor" and she recommended we do an ultra sound to see what was going on in there. Sure enough she had what is called an endometrial polyp. This should have been found by her previous doctor but I wont go there...Anyways, we had her D&C done today and in around 30 days we will get to start trying again.

Her and I are both upset that we have pretty much wasted the last 2-2.5 years with this polyp issue as it was causing a ton of irregularities around ovulation and other things. At the same token, we are both pretty excited that other couples we know have been successful in getting pregnant after having similar issues so we have some hope that maybe in 2018 we can finally become parents. We aren't getting any younger, you know :)

If anyone out there prays, my wife and I would appreciate them...otherwise feel free to send her some good vibes for an easy recovery from today's procedure.

Thanks THP

I'm glad you're making this public. Its very healthy and beneficial to talk about these kind of things. I know from experience just how hard infertility issues are. We lost 8 babies over the course of 12 years. The last 2 were late term twins. That was one of the most devastating times in my life. We tried every option from eastern to western medicine and even did IVF 3 times. After all that pain and heartache we finally decided to use a surrogate to cary for us. My boy was born via surrogate March 2016. The craziest part of our story is that my wife got pregnant naturally within days of our first being born and 9 months and 8 days later my little girl was born. Life is crazy sometimes.

Infertility issues are so common and there is a social taboo about talking about them in public. I know so many women and men who suffer silently because they dont want to burden those around them . This leads to shame and guilt and depression where it isn't necessary. A large percentage of women have miscarried and never tell a soul. Sometimes not even the father.

My wife and I are actually planning on starting a non-profit focused on helping women and men through fertility struggles. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat. Or if your wife wants to talk with mine, she is always up for it.

best of luck!
 
Wishing both of you the very best. Thoughts and prayers.
 
Good luck you guys. Glad you may have found a solution. Hoping for a speedy recovery and that things work out.


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praying for you, bud.

my wife and i went through a couple years of undiagnosed infertility. we were close to ivf, but were able to get pregnant.

after #1 she had a miscarriage. it is something she has never gotten over, and i have serious regrets about how i handled it. it’s a bigger deal for the mother than any man can understand.

we were able to get pregnant a second time without assistance. we fall into the category of her body just needed to figure it out.

my wife’s sister cannot have children, and she and her husband have closed that chapter. she was tremendous support when we were having difficulties. she is an amazingly godly woman who has shown nothing but love to us before and after children.

i will say this: you ARE a family today. you and your wife make a perfect family. if you add a child or children to that, praise God. that was the perspective that got us through the sadness of periods and negative tests.

if you want to talk, pm me. you are not alone!


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Sending positive thoughts your way.
 
Mike,

As you are seeing in this thread, you all are not alone in this fight even if it feels like you are all at times. Men are generally even worse about not mentioning it so that you have no idea how prevalent it really is.

It was one of the most frustrating times of our life as well, particularly with all the "advice" you get from people who mean well but you wish would just shut the hell up (not referring to the comments in this thread at all), while horrible people pop out kids like it is nothing. There is nothing fair about it.

Know that there are plenty of great doctors out there, and if you don't get the result you are looking for sooner than later, don't be hesitant to find an infertility specialist...that's what they are there for.

I know there are many others who have offered the same, but feel free to PM if you need to vent or if there is anything I can offer.
 
Good Luck! My wife and I had very similar issues, but now have a little girl that will be here in February. I hope y'all have similar success.
 
Good luck, Mike!

Been there a couple of times years ago with miscarriages but now have 2 great sons... good things will happen.
 
Prayers and mojo for both a successful procedure/recovery and a clear path to a happy, healthy and growing family.
 
Like others have said, you are definitely not alone. My wife and I have had a total of 7 miscarriages. One of which we lost at 22 weeks. We still don't have kids and have reached an age where we've given up, and are looking to adopt. We still have no idea why we weren't able to complete a pregnancy. All of the tests we have done throughout the years all came back normal. We're part of the 15% that are "unknown." The fact that you now have an answer for it should give you a ton of hope. Stay strong and stay positive... both of you. And from my wife and I, we'll be praying for you two. And we can't wait til we see an announcement that you're expecting and are expanding your family. We both really hope it's successful.
 
This thread makes me proud to be part of THP! There are more important things in life than golf. But its the love of golf that has allowed us to address those "more important things".
 
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