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So got some bad news yesterday about a coworker of my wife, and a close family friend. We were told that her oldest son had died. Come to find out that he had an altercation over the drive thru of a McDonalds and who had the right of way. Words were had and the other guy pulled a gun and killed our friends son on the spot.







Aside from the fact that a parent should never outlive their own child, there are now two parents who have to live without their child, two children who have to grow up without their dad, a fiancee who will never get to marry the love of her life ... all over who got to order dinner first.







It should go without saying, but bears repeating that it's never worth getting upset over stupid crap ... and probably everything else as well. Better to live another day than confront people over stuff and risk potentially your life. Honestly, it's hard to put into words how I feel, but I do know this should never have happened, especially over the subject matter. Be smart people, please. Life is too short.
 
I've never understood road rage. Totally normal calm people just go ballistic about driving.

Sorry to hear about your friend.
 
Sorry to hear about that. Everyone has a bit of road rage but those that take it to far have some serious issues.
 
Truly tragic. Hard to comprehend the mindset of someone pulling a gun and murdering over something so small.
 
My Dad is one of those people that is volcanic over the dumbest sh*t. I've always been afraid for him that he will piss off the wrong person and he will pay dearly. It was also something very difficult to grow up with and I promised myself I would never be that way, especially around my kids.

Life is too precious and short to be that upset over anything like that. Be happy, be safe and live well.
 
Wow, really sorry to hear that Deuce.
 
Sorry to hear that.
 
Very tragic Tom. Sorry to hear this.


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Thanks for the kind words everyone. NewGlfr said it very well ... Life is too precious, live well.
 
Sorry to hear this, Deuce.

I admit that there isn't a place I get more aggravated with people and their stupidity than behind the wheel. I have had some bouts of road rage but have made a conscious effort to control it for reasons just like what happened in this incident.
 
That is an awful story.
 
Just part of the very sad F'd up world we live in today. Nothing shocks me any more when I watch the news.
 
Super sad, sorry to hear about such a senseless loss. Stories like this honestly make me wonder what type of society my children will be living with in another 20 years.
 
Sorry to hear that, no one should out live their children. I have gotten very good at never being in a hurry for that reason. I find when I start to get in a hurry my fuse gets short with less than stellar driving. Now I laugh and shrug it off.
 
this really is sickening. it's also apropos to what i did this past saturday, and has me thinking differently regarding the correct course of action.

my wife grew up around guns, but i did not. we don't live in an awful neighborhood, but break-ins, particularly mid-day, are not uncommon. they're rarely violent, but i suppose there's always a chance. when she got pregnant with our first child, she insisted that we get a handgun. i purchased a taurus public defender, and after some time on the shooting range it was pretty obvious that this was too much gun for her. too heavy, way too much recoil, and a danger to anyone else in the house if she needed to fire it. so this saturday my father-in-law helped me pick out a ruger lc380. something more compact that she can fire more comfortably, that will make a loud noise, that is still large enough that someone can see she is holding a gun. it's meant to scare somebody as much as if not more than trying to put them down.

it also got me thinking about purchasing a couple more compact pistols, one for my car and one for her car. for her, she's always driving around town, and usually with the kids. anybody watching her would see how vulnerable she appears. nice car, pretty girl, small kids, i would think easy target. for me, there's a 90-day period where i'm working very late, often into the am hours of the night. our office has been broken into multiple times, so the threat is there for when i come out late at night.

but what about the situation you've described? i can't ever see my wife getting that angry, and while i don't have much of a temper, what if someone started threatening me? shouldn't my response be to just leave the scene? would having a weapon available give me an alternative option that i should honestly never go to?
 
Went to the funeral today. I didn't know their son personally, but it was gut-wrenching. Convinced more then ever no parent should outlive their child, and that no child should have a parent stolen from them.


Also learned today that the killer had to be escorted out of a restaurant (by police) earlier in the day for a confrontation ... seems he was itching for a fight and a young father paid with his life. Makes me sick to think he may not go away for life for this.
 
deuce said:
Went to the funeral today. I didn't know their son personally, but it was gut-wrenching. Convinced more then ever no parent should outlive their child, and that no child should have a parent stolen from them.


Also learned today that the killer had to be escorted out of a restaurant (by police) earlier in the day for a confrontation ... seems he was itching for a fight and a young father paid with his life. Makes me sick to think he may not go away for life for this.
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So sorry, man. I can't imagine.
 
Really sorry to hear this Deuce - The more I hear the more heartbreaking this is.
 
caeleric said:
this really is sickening. it's also apropos to what i did this past saturday, and has me thinking differently regarding the correct course of action.

my wife grew up around guns, but i did not. we don't live in an awful neighborhood, but break-ins, particularly mid-day, are not uncommon. they're rarely violent, but i suppose there's always a chance. when she got pregnant with our first child, she insisted that we get a handgun. i purchased a taurus public defender, and after some time on the shooting range it was pretty obvious that this was too much gun for her. too heavy, way too much recoil, and a danger to anyone else in the house if she needed to fire it. so this saturday my father-in-law helped me pick out a ruger lc380. something more compact that she can fire more comfortably, that will make a loud noise, that is still large enough that someone can see she is holding a gun. it's meant to scare somebody as much as if not more than trying to put them down.

it also got me thinking about purchasing a couple more compact pistols, one for my car and one for her car. for her, she's always driving around town, and usually with the kids. anybody watching her would see how vulnerable she appears. nice car, pretty girl, small kids, i would think easy target. for me, there's a 90-day period where i'm working very late, often into the am hours of the night. our office has been broken into multiple times, so the threat is there for when i come out late at night.

but what about the situation you've described? i can't ever see my wife getting that angry, and while i don't have much of a temper, what if someone started threatening me? shouldn't my response be to just leave the scene? would having a weapon available give me an alternative option that i should honestly never go to?
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I believe the stats say that having a gun in your vehicle or in easy access in your home makes you and your family less safe, not more. I own guns, my brother owns guns, my father and uncles all have guns, and they are all kept in locked gunsafes. They are for hunting and sport, they should not be considered self defense tools unless you are a law enforcement officer or the like. This is probably opening a can of worms though and if so, I apologize.
 
This is so sad, sorry for your friend's loss Tom.
 
Kids, loaded guns and cars don't mix. If you have a loaded gun, it should be on you or locked away. They make biometric safes for cars and homes for just this purpose. From a certified firearms instructor.

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Tom- Sorry to hear this.....brutal story all around. I can't even imagine what you, the victims family and friends are going through. Its a good thing that your open to talking about it...especially on a public forum. hang in there.
 
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