Parents of more than one... need a little pick me up.

I am having an EXTREMELY hard time being over the top excited about baby #2. My little boy is 2.5 and he is my world. The feeling he gives me is just not able to be put into words. My wife is right at 4 months pregnant with baby #2. I am excited, but for some reason, I get emotional thinking about my son now. I feel like he is going to be jealous, feel left out and feel like he is not getting the attention he deserves when the baby comes into the picture.

I know I will love the second child as much, but I just do not know if the feeling of my first with ever be duplicated.

This probably seems extremely selfish and weird, but it is weighing on me big time.

Did anyone else feel like this? Any words of wisdom?
Don't worry my friend. Dad's are always less emotionally attached until the baby is born. At least that's what I hear.

I was the same way you were with my second but the oldest has embraced her younger sister and is amazing. I know everything will turn out great so don't sweat it.

If you want to, when the time gets closer, sit your son down and explain to him what will happen. You'll be surprised how well they listen and understand.
 
Parents of more than one... need a little pick me up.

I am having an EXTREMELY hard time being over the top excited about baby #2. My little boy is 2.5 and he is my world. The feeling he gives me is just not able to be put into words. My wife is right at 4 months pregnant with baby #2. I am excited, but for some reason, I get emotional thinking about my son now. I feel like he is going to be jealous, feel left out and feel like he is not getting the attention he deserves when the baby comes into the picture.

I know I will love the second child as much, but I just do not know if the feeling of my first with ever be duplicated.

This probably seems extremely selfish and weird, but it is weighing on me big time.

Did anyone else feel like this? Any words of wisdom?
We spoke with our pediatrician at about the same point. She gave us this advice, which turned out to be 100% true - we don't know it but we have capacity for more love than we realize. We are not going to love one less because another one joins us. It's like if our love was an apple pie our pie would just get bigger.

It is hard to really grasp but your second is going to be his/her own person with a completely different personality. You are going to love him/her exactly the same amount but in different ways.

Also, appreciate that your kids are going to have their own relationship that is completely independent of you. That helps mitigate anything your son goes through in losing 100% access to the parents.

Your feelings are normal. I suspect all parents go through some version of this. It's all going to be okay.
 
Parents of more than one... need a little pick me up.

I am having an EXTREMELY hard time being over the top excited about baby #2. My little boy is 2.5 and he is my world. The feeling he gives me is just not able to be put into words. My wife is right at 4 months pregnant with baby #2. I am excited, but for some reason, I get emotional thinking about my son now. I feel like he is going to be jealous, feel left out and feel like he is not getting the attention he deserves when the baby comes into the picture.

Perfectly normal things to be worried about. He may very well experience all those things. One thing you can do is for both you and mom to find some activity that's between you and him and between him and mom. That way he has some special time with each of you that he knows is just for him.

I know I will love the second child as much, but I just do not know if the feeling of my first with ever be duplicated.

It will be a special feeling, but nothing can ever duplicate the experience of seeing your first born into the world, IME.

This probably seems extremely selfish and weird, but it is weighing on me big time.

Seems pretty normal to me and the sign of a father with a good head on his shoulders.

Did anyone else feel like this? Any words of wisdom?

Those are my words, won't know how much wisdom is behind until some other dads chime in.

BTW, Congrats on #2!
 
I wasn't overly excited about #2 either since with our daughter everything was brand new and a totally new experience. I was so happy, don't get me wrong, but I wasn't dancing for joy like I was when my wife told me she was pregnant with #1.

That being said, 10 years later I love both my kids like nothing else in the world. You have nothing to fear.


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So here's the WGI World Championship vid of my daughter's indoor percussion group's performance in Ohio. She's one of the dancers, and there's an awesome closeup of her at 6:03 during Skyfall. I can't put into words how proud of her I am for all her hard work and dedication to the program as a freshman.

 
As a Dad of 3 I can say that when #2 was coming I had a bunch of those "oh boy why are we doing this moments". That of course quickly went away when she entered the world as I'm sure it will with you. We have a 6 year spread from #1 to #2 and a 4 year spread from #2 to #3, you are wiser to keep the gap tighter, you will understand in time. The further apart the less apart of each other's life's they are, which can be problematic.
 
Need some golf club tips.

My daughter is 3 and is wanting to hit her plastic golf clubs a lot more now. Problem is they are cheap and look like they are about to break. The other problem is that she is showing signs of being left handed. What are club options for a 3-4 year old south paw?
 
Need some golf club tips.

My daughter is 3 and is wanting to hit her plastic golf clubs a lot more now. Problem is they are cheap and look like they are about to break. The other problem is that she is showing signs of being left handed. What are club options for a 3-4 year old south paw?
My daughter is 4 and I have a set of the US Kids golf clubs. They seem kinda heavy still when she swings them. I would think lefty kids clubs for that age will be hard to find.

Check this out though:

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Need some golf club tips.

My daughter is 3 and is wanting to hit her plastic golf clubs a lot more now. Problem is they are cheap and look like they are about to break. The other problem is that she is showing signs of being left handed. What are club options for a 3-4 year old south paw?
Make her play right handed. My oldest is left handed but I introduced her to golf right. That way it will be easier finding clubs and at that age it will be easier for her to adapt.

But I wouldn't worry about clubs much yet. I think the plastic ones should be fine for awhile. But I got my 5 year old some U. S. kids clubs and they seem pretty solid.
 
Make her play right handed. My oldest is left handed but I introduced her to golf right. That way it will be easier finding clubs and at that age it will be easier for her to adapt.

But I wouldn't worry about clubs much yet. I think the plastic ones should be fine for awhile. But I got my 5 year old some U. S. kids clubs and they seem pretty solid.
The plastic clubs are right handed and she is trying to hit with the back of them. Wasn't sure if anyone knew of some left handed options.
 
The plastic clubs are right handed and she is trying to hit with the back of them. Wasn't sure if anyone knew of some left handed options.
That's the same thing mine did. I worked with her a bit and she seems to be able to swing right. Hopefully your daughter can do the same but left handed for women is pretty slim pickings. I've looked. Haha.
 
Such a proud papa right now.

Had to go to the pediatric cardiologist yesterday to make sure the youngest didn't have anything major going on. She didn't, totally nothing to worry about, that's a huge happy for us. But what I'm so proud of is the way my youngest handled everything. Didn't cry, fuss, shy away, or anything from the nurse or doctor. And when they did the EKG she sat super still and didn't move. Was so proud of her because I think a lot of kids would have been scared.

Plus the oldest was there and the way she talked to get sister to help her relax was super awesome as well. I couldn't be more proud how they interact with one another and the love shown is amazing. Makes me think we are doing something right to be raising two intelligent, caring, loving individuals.
 
I've been hitting foam balls in front of my house in the evenings. My kiddo likes to go collect them and bring them back to me so I can hit them again. Couple of nights ago, he had one of his plastic clubs in tow and while playing outside with his momma, went to the back of my car and kept pointing and saying "ball". She took the foam balls out, gave him a few and said he lined up and tapped his club on the ground behind the ball like I tend to do. Step one on training a playing partner completed!
 
Need some golf club tips.

My daughter is 3 and is wanting to hit her plastic golf clubs a lot more now. Problem is they are cheap and look like they are about to break. The other problem is that she is showing signs of being left handed. What are club options for a 3-4 year old south paw?
I'm not sure about the left/right thing but I definitely wouldn't recommend buying too much or anything expensive for her. I think the first sets we bought our kids were a lowere end kids brand from Golfsmith. They lasted until the kids outgrew them, then I bought nicer stuff.
 
That's awesome Dan. Those appointment can be brutal if the kid isnt ready to handle all the tests. I'm glad the results came out in your favor
 
That's awesome Dan. Those appointment can be brutal if the kid isnt ready to handle all the tests. I'm glad the results came out in your favor
It was relatively easy. Just a quick EKG was all. The family doctor heard a murmur and they wanted to get it checked out to be sure. But the specialist assured us we would never have to worry about it and it will in no way affect her quality of life. Huge relief.
 
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don't let the pink dress fool you! my girls not to be messed with..lol!
 
Crazy day, but it's ending perfectly hanging with my girls

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My daughter keeps getting boughts of nausea and dizziness. My wife thinks it's because she needs glasses. But, of course, I just envision worst case scenarios. I hate this feeling.
 
Good reads.I so miss the time I spent with the young ones growing up.Would spend every available minute with them.Would love to do it all over again
 
Well I can officially say I am eligible for this thread! Friday Morning, My wife and I welcomed our first born into the world, we never found out the sex until the baby was born and are happy to be home with our beautiful daughter, Declan Augusta Harvey.
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Congrats! It's awesome to hear everyone is home healthy and happy!
 
Well I can officially say I am eligible for this thread! Friday Morning, My wife and I welcomed our first born into the world, we never found out the sex until the baby was born and are happy to be home with our beautiful daughter, Declan Augusta Harvey.


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Congrats!!!!
 
Congrats Harv. My first is 7 months old now and it's been great! Enjoy the little moments
 
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