NEPA_Lefty
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This is long, but I want to explain this the best I can so you can see where I'm coming from.
At work there's 4 of us that have gone golfing a handful of times this year. One guy works 2 jobs and has a wife on disability. He's always saying how tight he is on money. I'll call him Al. Fwiw, I get it. I do. I was there myself for some years, but if I was going skiing or biking, I'd come up with the money or not go.
I'm not rich myself, but I'm in a better position in life right now than he is. Again, I get it.
The course "ABC" is an hour away and charges $65 for 18/cart on weekends. Al said he'd have to save $5 a week, but looked forward to playing this course. I found out I can save by booking online. But I can only book the week of, not 2 months in advance. It came down to $50 each. AL particularly was happy. He asked if it would be that low "then", meaning when we went in almost 2 months. I said "Let's hope so". He started doing the math in front of me figuring out how much the fees were "Plus gas... Who's driving?". I said I would cause I have an SUV that all 4 of us could fit in. He asked "5, 10 bucks for gas?", I said "Yeah, we'll figure it out when it gets here". Gas WAS $2.35 before the Hurricane in Texas. It's now $2.90 here. This course is about an hour away and, not that it matters, but its in the state next to us.
We'd talk about this for the next 2 months daily between myself, AL and "3". The other guy works in a separate division, but we'd talk to him once a week. We were all psyched to play! AL throws out that we should play a captain and crew tournament cause he thinks we'll do good. I know a C&C tournament is usually $75+pp. But I figured he's doing OK with the second job and is making enough money to afford it.
Yesterday we met at Al's house and we loaded up my SUV. It was just under an hour to get there. We each paid $50 and "4" turned around and handed me a $10 for gas. AL and 3 were right there. I don't think they missed it. But neither paid. That cash would be my money for the week.
They both bought souvenirs and later drinks/food from the cart girl.
I'm not a guy that likes to ask for money... But this is my weeks cash. So at work "3" and myself were talking about the game and some shots and I threw it out there "Hey, when you think about it, can you remember that $10 for gas?" he replied "oh, yeah" and we went back to talking about the game.
At break I was outside and AL came out too. I said to him the same thing I said to "3". He said "Each!"... I asked him "what?" he repeats it "Each!" with a little smile... I'm confused and said in more of the form of a question "Yes?" but I felt awkward and confused. He replied "Wow!". Then went on how it was only 40 minutes away (it was longer really, but we left his house 15 minutes early) and how I'm making $40.
So I went inside and figured out via Google maps what the distance from his place to ABC was, multiplied it times 2 and divided it by my trucks avg mpg. This puts me at $18.75 worth of gas. Divide that by 4 and its $4.75 per person... I never thought I'd have to figure all this out prior to taking my "buddies" golfing. Whenever someone else drives me somewhere, I've always thrown them money and figure that in as part of the expense.
Do I really go back to "4" and give him $5 back and tell Al and "3" that $5 is what they owe?
Fwiw, I drove Al and "3" to another course earlier in the year that's 40 minutes away and didn't ask for a penny.
Al told me this morning (before any of this happened) he was tired cause he didn't go to bed till midnight cause he went to the movies after we got home! That's $12pp. Idk if his wife went or not. Wtf?
This makes an uncomfortable work place. As I walked through the building right after the moment-of-awkwardness, Al was talking to "3" and saw me coming, nodded his head toward me, looked at the floor and turned around. "3" got uncomfortable and started rambling "Umm, yeah, I don't know...."
This is frustrating and uncomfortable.
What should I do?
At work there's 4 of us that have gone golfing a handful of times this year. One guy works 2 jobs and has a wife on disability. He's always saying how tight he is on money. I'll call him Al. Fwiw, I get it. I do. I was there myself for some years, but if I was going skiing or biking, I'd come up with the money or not go.
I'm not rich myself, but I'm in a better position in life right now than he is. Again, I get it.
The course "ABC" is an hour away and charges $65 for 18/cart on weekends. Al said he'd have to save $5 a week, but looked forward to playing this course. I found out I can save by booking online. But I can only book the week of, not 2 months in advance. It came down to $50 each. AL particularly was happy. He asked if it would be that low "then", meaning when we went in almost 2 months. I said "Let's hope so". He started doing the math in front of me figuring out how much the fees were "Plus gas... Who's driving?". I said I would cause I have an SUV that all 4 of us could fit in. He asked "5, 10 bucks for gas?", I said "Yeah, we'll figure it out when it gets here". Gas WAS $2.35 before the Hurricane in Texas. It's now $2.90 here. This course is about an hour away and, not that it matters, but its in the state next to us.
We'd talk about this for the next 2 months daily between myself, AL and "3". The other guy works in a separate division, but we'd talk to him once a week. We were all psyched to play! AL throws out that we should play a captain and crew tournament cause he thinks we'll do good. I know a C&C tournament is usually $75+pp. But I figured he's doing OK with the second job and is making enough money to afford it.
Yesterday we met at Al's house and we loaded up my SUV. It was just under an hour to get there. We each paid $50 and "4" turned around and handed me a $10 for gas. AL and 3 were right there. I don't think they missed it. But neither paid. That cash would be my money for the week.
They both bought souvenirs and later drinks/food from the cart girl.
I'm not a guy that likes to ask for money... But this is my weeks cash. So at work "3" and myself were talking about the game and some shots and I threw it out there "Hey, when you think about it, can you remember that $10 for gas?" he replied "oh, yeah" and we went back to talking about the game.
At break I was outside and AL came out too. I said to him the same thing I said to "3". He said "Each!"... I asked him "what?" he repeats it "Each!" with a little smile... I'm confused and said in more of the form of a question "Yes?" but I felt awkward and confused. He replied "Wow!". Then went on how it was only 40 minutes away (it was longer really, but we left his house 15 minutes early) and how I'm making $40.
So I went inside and figured out via Google maps what the distance from his place to ABC was, multiplied it times 2 and divided it by my trucks avg mpg. This puts me at $18.75 worth of gas. Divide that by 4 and its $4.75 per person... I never thought I'd have to figure all this out prior to taking my "buddies" golfing. Whenever someone else drives me somewhere, I've always thrown them money and figure that in as part of the expense.
Do I really go back to "4" and give him $5 back and tell Al and "3" that $5 is what they owe?
Fwiw, I drove Al and "3" to another course earlier in the year that's 40 minutes away and didn't ask for a penny.
Al told me this morning (before any of this happened) he was tired cause he didn't go to bed till midnight cause he went to the movies after we got home! That's $12pp. Idk if his wife went or not. Wtf?
This makes an uncomfortable work place. As I walked through the building right after the moment-of-awkwardness, Al was talking to "3" and saw me coming, nodded his head toward me, looked at the floor and turned around. "3" got uncomfortable and started rambling "Umm, yeah, I don't know...."
This is frustrating and uncomfortable.
What should I do?
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