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#ICanHitADraw
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Here's what I would do to help my brother if he was like that: Nothing. If someone isn't trying, I am not going to waste my time.Well, the crap finally hit the fan yesterday with my brother and his constant laziness and sense of entitlement.
A little back story...
He's been living with my aunt since he got evicted a year ago. His GF (total loser that we all hated) convinced him to move out with her so they could move "forward." They were 20 years old with a $900 rent payment all while making $1100 a month...combined! (Just shows what we're dealing with here.)
My brother has been severely depressed for about 3 years but won't take the meds the doctor prescribed because he's "fine" and doesn't need them.
His idea of life is to work just hard enough to not be fired, go to the coffee shop and play League of Legends all night, drink until he passes out and then repeat the cycle. Unfortunately, he works for me and we seriously need the help right now. His paychecks are now us paying the bills for him so he can't continue to blow it on drugs, tattoos and alcohol.
He thinks we all judge him because of said drinking and tattoos, but in reality I judge him based on how little motivation he has to do ANYTHING productive with his life.
I'm at a total loss of how to help him. We have 2 uncles that are now 60+ that have this same attitude. One is homeless living in a box in California and the other does just enough to keep his house. I keep thinking my brother will "wake" up one day and realize his self destructive behavior won't work. I'm losing hope and faith quickly in that.
What do you say or do for someone that won't get out of their own way?
Sorry for the novel guys...just needed to air that out after my sleepless night