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My wife is out playing in a Ryder Cup type event and I have been home all day cleaning our home
You know what, I love that she loves the game of golf ️
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I love to come home to a clean house! Floors vacuumed and mopped, clean sheets on the bed, house all clean. Now that's the way it should be! Wife playing, husband at home cleaning. Where is supper? Truly a nice surprise today and so much appreciated!
So I got into a little heated argument over the weekend with the wife. For the last few years I've averaged a round a week with a second once in a while. This year we had a child (now 7 months old). Since her birth I've all but given up practicing and am averaging about 1 round every 3 weeks. All along I had [vocal] envisions of going back to playing weekly once the baby was 6 months and more independent. This weekend I brought up the irony of the fact that I actually haven't played a round SINCE she turned 6 months. Long story short, the wife thinks that a 5 hour round (gone for 5 hours total) once per week is extremely overboard for having a 7 month old. She has no problem with every other week but not every week.
What makes matters more difficult (for me) is that my best friend and his wife had a baby 6 weeks before us yet he still plays every week, sometimes twice.
I realize that there is no good solution that will magically make her change her mind, and that every one's family is different but I guess I just wanted to vent, and maybe hear if anyone had a similar situation and if it ever improved.
Thanks
Hate to say but, welcome to the world of being a parent.
sorry to hear that your fun and exercise is being cut off. well I don't know you at all and respect you are listening to her......having said that.........whats next? this might be the beginning of the end for you man. sorry but some people do marry the wrong person.
This right here. The wife will generally let me go golf on the weekends when I can give her a heads up in advance. However, I know it causes some strain, particularly because when the wife and I do get into an argument, the first thing she throws at me is: I let you go golf. I understand it's not easy being alone with the little one, and as such I do all I can to make sure kiddo is up and dressed each morning while mom gets ready for work. Also that his diaper bag is packed, he has enough bibs and clothes to get him through a week if necessary, and his bottles are prep'd and the lunch bag filled with food for the day. I also realize that I travel more than my fair share for work, so I'm gone a week or two every three months or so. I have no doubt it's difficult to handle kiddo alone. It's why I don't fuss at her when she goes shopping after work and gets home late, or if she goes out with the girls for drinks on a weekend night. We both need to unwind and have some "me time", and I realize my idea of "me time" really is a bit more constrained to mornings/afternoons based on friends schedules (if I don't want to play alone) and daylight availability.you took what i wanted to say and boiled it down to one spot-on statement. my wife thinks she is supportive of my golf, but since day 1 she has had a bad attitude about it that comes through no matter how hard she tries. so i play during the week, so that on the weekends my family has my undivided attention. the only weekend golf i play is hitting balls during naps, or taking my oldest for 9 holes. that's the "sacrifice" i have made to keep the peace. my kids are young (3.5 and 1.5), so when they get a little older i can focus more on my game. there is a season for everything.
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That's a little harsh. Do you happen to have kids? Any spouse is going to want their significant other around when little kids are involved. And so they should. There just needs to be a little give on both ends. Worked for my wife and I.
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sorry for being the devils advocate but the truth hurts. I've seen too many friends go down this path.....and it don't work. years and lives wasted....not to meantion money.
yes I am happily married, with 2 children 8-11.
my wife never cut off my sports like golf and hockey. we are both busy with our careers but our children come first. we both work in the educational system, I teach full time, I coach on Mondays and Wednesdays in minor hockey, and teach night classes on Monday and Wednesday nights. busy busy busy.
so my wife knows that I need this time to do my things I enjoy and she does the same. we have been married for 24 years now out of high school.
I also go on golfing tournies out of town once a month, I go over seas to follow Iron Maiden around for 2 weeks a year, golf at least 4 times a week....with my son.
I just married my best friend and love of my life and we understand and don't get in the way of each others activities and interests.
I lucked out big time. most my friends hate the freedom I get.
We have to keep in mind, with roughly 50% of marriages ending in divorce (and a lot of others remaining married, while unhappy in that marriage) some people have no clue what it takes to be happily married.That's a little harsh. Do you happen to have kids? Any spouse is going to want their significant other around when little kids are involved. And so they should. There just needs to be a little give on both ends. Worked for my wife and I.
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I'd suggest to the OP be really careful who you take your advice from, and who you are comparing yourself to...and what you want from your marriage and life years down the road.
You could always get some super glue if she needs more bonding time
I have 2 kids and I'm lucky to get to play once a month. Not because of any spouse restrictions, but having kids changes your life (in very good ways and very challenging ways). It takes some time to adjust to the "remind me what free time is again" lifestyle that happens when you have kids. Trust me, it gets easier as they get a little older. Enjoy them being little because they don't stay that way for long. Before you know it your kids will be coming to the course and beating your for more allowance.
You had me at Iron Maiden!! Nice. Good to see things are great. Now, was it like that for you seven years ago when your kids were super young?
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