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Coping with a miscarriage

While my wife and I never suffered through a miscarriage, we did have our share of problems having a child. There are lots of stresses that surround this type of situation, pressure from peers on when you are going to have a child, pressures for seeing your friends and other having children, the pressures you put on yourselves, and if you don't have insurance coverage for infertility treatment the financial pressures. I found my biggest problem was trying to take care of my wife and not dealing with the stresses I was facing. Based on that, my advice is to make sure you take care of yourself!
 
Just now seeing this and my heart aches for you guys. I really don't have any wonderful words of wisdom. However, I am the seventh try. My mom had 6 miscarriages before me and I was 76 days premature. She was a very small lady, 4'9". I asked her in her final months on this earth why she kept trying. The answer is unimportant, but she kept trying and I will never fully understand her pain and suffering in bringing me into this world.

My brother was born three years later, full term without incident. It can and will happen for you. My prayers are with you both.

JM
 
Man, that is rough. My heart aches for you guys. I am sorry you've had to deal with this and wish you all the best. I wish I could say something more than that.
 
Y'all are in my thoughts and prayers buddy. I am so sorry to read this.
 
While having friends who have gone through this, we have not. Nor were we able to have biological children. I empathize with your situation and hope you take some level of consolation with the stories here of couples who went through this and then sucessfully gave birth.

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I was looking for a thread and found this one. Almost 4 years to the day since the last post! I'm still having a hard time coping with our miscarriage. It seems to bother me more than my wife which is extremely weird and a roll reversal. I have a hard time showing emotion and she is very open with hers. I was deleting old pictures from my phone and I came across the last ultrasound picture we had of the baby and I can't make myself delete it!
 
J.B. Cobb III said:
I was looking for a thread and found this one. Almost 4 years to the day since the last post! I'm still having a hard time coping with our miscarriage. It seems to bother me more than my wife which is extremely weird and a roll reversal. I have a hard time showing emotion and she is very open with hers. I was deleting old pictures from my phone and I came across the last ultrasound picture we had of the baby and I can't make myself delete it!
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Perfectly normal to keep that ultrasound brother, all pregnancies are a part of your family and hopes and dreams. Thanks for posting. You are in good company.
 
Hey man sorry to hear about what you guys are going through. My wife had two miscarries between my first and second child so I kinda understand where you are coming from even though I already had a daughter. Its tough, it had my wife feeling down for awhile. The doctor surmised that a hormone imbalance was mostly responsible and that in time it should work itself out. About two years after the last one, she gave birth to my son. So don't give up hope, and I wish all the best for you guys. As an anecdote, I have a cousin who just had a baby after about 7 years and numerous miscarries as well, so its still possible brother.
 
I'm sorry you and your wife are going through this again. My wife and I had 1 not too long after we started dating. We don't have 1 of our own but I adopted Connor about a year ago after being in his life for 7 years.

All you can do is stay busy and try your best to be there for each other.
 
I'm very sorry you and your wife have to deal with this pain and grief. My wife and I also had 3 miscarriages in about a year and a half period, before our healthy daughter and son were born in quick succession. There's a lot of great advice in these responses already, mixed in with some truly heartbreaking tragedies. I think the most important thing is that you and your wife are there for each other. It will take a lot of love and support to properly grieve and get through the fear of trying again. Good on you for reaching out here. I hope you have found some level of comfort, and maybe helped someone else in the process. Good luck. Thoughts and prayers are with you moving forward.
 
Can't imagine what you're going thru. I'll be praying for you both.

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Damn. Sorry to hear. I know what you're going through.

The wife and I went through 6 miscarriages. And there's nothing you can say or do that helps the Mrs. Went to a fertility specialist and did just about everything except in vitro. Pretty damn close. Just one of those things where you need to be there for her.

We decided to take a break and after some time trying (on our own time not on a schedule) we were blessed with our daughter.

All I can say is don't give up and God works in mysterious ways.

Stay strong.
 
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