I could repeat what has already been said, but pointless. try to smooth it over and let us know how it turns out
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After a 170 yard sprint, I'd be interested to see how much of a fight he could have put up.
Don't be too hard on yourself. We have all done things we have regretted. If you feel the need to apologize, then do so, if not, let it go and move on. That fact that you are thinking about this like you are tells me you are a good guy.
In my opinion your neighbor should be apologizing to you. It was his friend that charged you. You're not 100% guilt free here but it would not have been difficult for them to let you play thru. You can only control your own actions and per your admission, reacted badly. That said, don't beat yourself up over it....try to make amends and move on.
On a side note. Who charges someone after one comment on the course? He must have been drunk or really frustrated with his game that day. Sooner or later he's gonna charge the wrong dude and end up paying for it.
I did act like a jerk, I’ll admit that. I’d never be accused of charging after someone when they’re making comments about my slow play because if I was that slow I’d just let them through no fuss.
I’m never that slow but occasionally a single or even a 2-some will catch us (as a 4-some) and as soon as convenient we let them through. Certainly within them waiting a full hole-unless there’s no room for them to go. In which case if they look frustrated I’ll drive back to them (while we’re waiting to boot) and tell them they’re welcome to go through or join us. Don’t want some idiot hitting into us to try to hurry us up when there’s nowhere to go.
It woulda been a bad move had he ran the entire 170 yards in his charge to me without his flung putter, lol. I have no flight left in me, fights all I’ve got. I was fully into that mode (which as an adult, I’m not bragging-just explaining-I’m not running anywhere. And as a former fighting hothead had he made it to me with bad intentions it would have ended badly for him) luckily my neighbor completed the “hold me back bro” routine with his 60ish year old friend, which at that point I found hilarious (due to adrenaline, again-not proud of my actions only explaining them) and probably egged the situation on further by yelling out a Ric Flair’ish “WOOOOOO” once his charge was broke. I may have even yelled “hold me back bro, hold me back” while laughing. I do remember throwing my hat when he was actually charging me and saying something like “bring it on mother ‘carebear’ “
*call me a bad father but my kids are not shielded from language such as this-the oldest 2 anyways. I can invent an entire new language on a golf course occasionally that can be colorful if correctly interpreted.
From a fairway over it would have been funny to see. Being in the heat of the moment, it’s something I should have done as a man-IF and only IF, my kids weren’t there. I’d have zero regrets about it if I hadn’t made a complete ass of myself in front of them.
But flinging your putter and charging (or mock charging) someone isn’t wise, that much you are correct on. Had he arrived and had I felt my kids in danger, and had I felt that I couldn’t handle things, it could have got ugly really fast. Heck, I carry 19-20 clubs at any given time.... �� �� Even with a paltry 14 clubs, it beats zero in a fight.
I personally really respect how you're viewing this in hindsight. As many, yourself included, have stated that there is no one that is absolved of guilt in this situation.
Good on you for wanting to reach out and bury the hatchet. You're doing the right thing and like you've mentioned, totally his problem if he doesn't accept. Respect to you and hopefully it goes well and you find yourself a new golf buddy.
I keep thinking about those videos online where someone picks a fight with the wrong guy (lately MMA fighters) and it does not go well for the fight picker. That's what I'm envisioning, based on what you're saying, had the mock charger actually charged you. Honestly, I'd probably do the same as you and KO him with no hesitation whatsoever if I felt my kid was in the slightest bit of danger.
Out of curiosity, if you caught up on 6 and could see the rest of the front 9 was completely open, why not skip 6 and 7, play 8 and 9 and then head back if there was enough time? May not be a great solution, but you don't get into it with the group in front and you get to make a point that they're so slow you're willing to forgo playing one or two holes just to not be stuck behind them. I realize if you didn't have a cart, that might be a bit harder to do. I've done this before, often while playing as a single when I was a club member, and never had anyone call me out for it. Obviously wouldn't do that if there was another group that's only a hole or so ahead of the slow group. But in this circumstance, I don't see the problem with that.
In any case, hope it all goes well for you when you extend the olive branch.
I've found that a 6 pack and a conversation can help clear up any minor lapse in judgments.
Just wanted to update, was out mowing yesterday when I saw my neighbor pulling into his driveway. It’s the first I’ve seen him since the incident last fall.
So I parked the mower and strolled over. I had my coaching shirt on so he first asked how baseball was going. We chatted a bit until we got to golf. I told him I was playing up at Firestone and explained how I got into the Bridgestone Championship there.
Long story short, I apologized for my part in last falls incident. He didn’t apologize for him (which other than a couple questionable comments about him teaching my kids etiquette, he didn’t really have anything to apologize for) but for his buddies behavior. Which he didn’t need to. We both shook hands and We’re neighborly neighbors again. He always struck me as a decent guy, but gosh I hope I don’t get stuck behind his group again, lol. I will certainly try to handle it better if I do though.
Just wanted to update, was out mowing yesterday when I saw my neighbor pulling into his driveway. It’s the first I’ve seen him since the incident last fall.
So I parked the mower and strolled over. I had my coaching shirt on so he first asked how baseball was going. We chatted a bit until we got to golf. I told him I was playing up at Firestone and explained how I got into the Bridgestone Championship there.
Long story short, I apologized for my part in last falls incident. He didn’t apologize for him (which other than a couple questionable comments about him teaching my kids etiquette, he didn’t really have anything to apologize for) but for his buddies behavior. Which he didn’t need to. We both shook hands and We’re neighborly neighbors again. He always struck me as a decent guy, but gosh I hope I don’t get stuck behind his group again, lol. I will certainly try to handle it better if I do though.