RatFink
Carnivore
Hello THP,
This might be one of the more serious posts I ever make on this forum.
My ex girlfriend who I have tried to be friends with is very depressed. She's been battling this for the last 8 years. She has fought through both bulimia and anorexia over the years and has wound up in the hospital for her heart nearly giving out and also for a few rounds of treatment to fight her eating disorders. She recently moved out to pursue a second degree in another city and struggles to make it to class because she can not build the will to go out and face the world because of how she hates the way she looks and constantly feels down. She refuses to see a professional about this because she says they don't help her and I can not provide her with the support she really needs. Her other friends try to help as well but obviously none of us are fully capable of comprehending and helping her. I've read some great analogies about what depression is like and they make sense but I can't fully feel the weight of it so I can't "walk a mile in her shoes" as they say.
Tonight she scared me as I checked my phone after a movie that she was contemplating death. This is way beyond me and I know her mom already suggested she come home so that she can go back into the hospital program to help her get better but she doesn't want to.
I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for what I can do.
I encourage her to talk about these things and to see help but she refuses. Some of my friends have told me to just cut her loose and live my life because it's honestly dragging me down and sometimes I really feel like I need to do that for my own sake, but then I remember that that's not who I am and I have never consciously given up on someone.
Sorry if this is heavy... I just don't know anymore.
This might be one of the more serious posts I ever make on this forum.
My ex girlfriend who I have tried to be friends with is very depressed. She's been battling this for the last 8 years. She has fought through both bulimia and anorexia over the years and has wound up in the hospital for her heart nearly giving out and also for a few rounds of treatment to fight her eating disorders. She recently moved out to pursue a second degree in another city and struggles to make it to class because she can not build the will to go out and face the world because of how she hates the way she looks and constantly feels down. She refuses to see a professional about this because she says they don't help her and I can not provide her with the support she really needs. Her other friends try to help as well but obviously none of us are fully capable of comprehending and helping her. I've read some great analogies about what depression is like and they make sense but I can't fully feel the weight of it so I can't "walk a mile in her shoes" as they say.
Tonight she scared me as I checked my phone after a movie that she was contemplating death. This is way beyond me and I know her mom already suggested she come home so that she can go back into the hospital program to help her get better but she doesn't want to.
I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for what I can do.
I encourage her to talk about these things and to see help but she refuses. Some of my friends have told me to just cut her loose and live my life because it's honestly dragging me down and sometimes I really feel like I need to do that for my own sake, but then I remember that that's not who I am and I have never consciously given up on someone.
Sorry if this is heavy... I just don't know anymore.