double-hoo
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I need some opinions on an issue of golf etiquette, and specifically whether my expectations are reasonable, or whether I am perhaps approaching "old fogey" territory.
My view has always been, and I have made it a practice, that one should not make noise or move in another golfer's peripheral vision when another golfer is playing. So on the tee, I tend to stay in back of the golfer teeing off, or somewhere else where I am completely out of his site when he is looking down at the ball. Same on the fairway. On the green, I tend to stand to the side out of the golfer's peripheral vision.
I also try not to make any noise when another golfer is swinging or is well into his pre-shot routine (e.g., the waggle). I don't put my clubs back in the bag or remove clubs when another golfer is hitting in reasonably close proximity. I don't open zippers on my golf bag, or jingle my pockets to extract a tee, or shake ice in a drink cup, or toss items in the front of the cart, or bite into an apple, etc., if there is any chance I can be heard. I think it is just good etiquette not to make any noise when another golfer is about to hit, or is preparing to hit. I tend to stay more or less immobile.
One of my regular foursome partners, however, will "get me" about three to four times per round. I'm confident he's not doing it on purpose. I think that, like most of the self-absorbed world today, he's just not aware. So I'll be standing over a putt or over a tee shot, and he'll be standing at about 1 or 2 o'clock in my peripheral vision, and he'll cross his legs, or pick up his club off the ground, or something so I see the movement or hear the noise right at the top of my backswing. Or he'll hit his shot from the fairway, and I'll be about 10 yards away, and at the top of my backswing, I'll hear him dropping his club back in his bag, or maybe tossing his phone into the front of the cart after he checked for text messages.
I've made a comment or two from time to time when he has done this, but he does not seem to be catching on. At least, he's not making a permanent change in his conduct. I'm tempted to be more direct, but he's a long time friend, and I don't want to insult him. Plus, I'm not certain that I'm being reasonable. Perhaps today common courtesy is out of fashion even on the golf course?
Am I being unreasonable expecting other members of the foursome to remain quite and not to move in my peripheral vision when I'm trying to make a shot?
My view has always been, and I have made it a practice, that one should not make noise or move in another golfer's peripheral vision when another golfer is playing. So on the tee, I tend to stay in back of the golfer teeing off, or somewhere else where I am completely out of his site when he is looking down at the ball. Same on the fairway. On the green, I tend to stand to the side out of the golfer's peripheral vision.
I also try not to make any noise when another golfer is swinging or is well into his pre-shot routine (e.g., the waggle). I don't put my clubs back in the bag or remove clubs when another golfer is hitting in reasonably close proximity. I don't open zippers on my golf bag, or jingle my pockets to extract a tee, or shake ice in a drink cup, or toss items in the front of the cart, or bite into an apple, etc., if there is any chance I can be heard. I think it is just good etiquette not to make any noise when another golfer is about to hit, or is preparing to hit. I tend to stay more or less immobile.
One of my regular foursome partners, however, will "get me" about three to four times per round. I'm confident he's not doing it on purpose. I think that, like most of the self-absorbed world today, he's just not aware. So I'll be standing over a putt or over a tee shot, and he'll be standing at about 1 or 2 o'clock in my peripheral vision, and he'll cross his legs, or pick up his club off the ground, or something so I see the movement or hear the noise right at the top of my backswing. Or he'll hit his shot from the fairway, and I'll be about 10 yards away, and at the top of my backswing, I'll hear him dropping his club back in his bag, or maybe tossing his phone into the front of the cart after he checked for text messages.
I've made a comment or two from time to time when he has done this, but he does not seem to be catching on. At least, he's not making a permanent change in his conduct. I'm tempted to be more direct, but he's a long time friend, and I don't want to insult him. Plus, I'm not certain that I'm being reasonable. Perhaps today common courtesy is out of fashion even on the golf course?
Am I being unreasonable expecting other members of the foursome to remain quite and not to move in my peripheral vision when I'm trying to make a shot?