sposey013168
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Take the guys trip.
then
Take the wife on a trip soon after.
Win.Win
Nate is a wise man
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Take the guys trip.
then
Take the wife on a trip soon after.
Win.Win
there's no substitute for honesty.
tell her that you go on this trip every year. it's always the same time of year. it's something you look forward to very much, and it's important to you. you want to go.
BUT, also tell her that you understand how important the gala is for her fundraiser. and that if it's important for her that you attend with her, you are ok to miss one year with your buddies so that you can support the woman you love.
that sounds pretty sappy, but that would be my recommendation.
there's no substitute for honesty.
tell her that you go on this trip every year. it's always the same time of year. it's something you look forward to very much, and it's important to you. you want to go.
BUT, also tell her that you understand how important the gala is for her fundraiser. and that if it's important for her that you attend with her, you are ok to miss one year with your buddies so that you can support the woman you love.
that sounds pretty sappy, but that would be my recommendation.
All these posts I see of guys saying they have to ask permission for anything golf related just blows me away
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The responses in this thread are cracking me up! You guys are awesome. LOL!!
Just to clear up some common themes among the responses: Yes, I do know her very well, and I know for a fact that it's not a trap and I could go on the golf trip consequence-free if I chose to. The question was tongue-in-cheek and just posted for humor's sake. And yes, the non-profit is very important to me and I always have a big "unofficial" role working the room and connecting people who need to be connected for the benefit of the organization. I would hate to miss it. The golf event isn't just a trip with the boys, it is yet another fundraising event for a different organization and a bunch of us have made it an annual thing - so all that is to say, it isn't something I can reschedule. But it's no big deal to me either way. I love going on that trip, but I wouldn't miss the Gala. And, while I have the complete freedom to go on the golf trip if I wanted, I also know that there are more important things in life such as being there with family for the big things. And, as a much lower priority, I also know from experience that my attendance at the Gala will buy me a lot of goodwill on the homefront. Totally worth it.
Anyway, thanks for all the responses. This has been hilarious!
The responses in this thread are cracking me up! You guys are awesome. LOL!!
Just to clear up some common themes among the responses: Yes, I do know her very well, and I know for a fact that it's not a trap and I could go on the golf trip consequence-free if I chose to. The question was tongue-in-cheek and just posted for humor's sake. And yes, the non-profit is very important to me and I always have a big "unofficial" role working the room and connecting people who need to be connected for the benefit of the organization. I would hate to miss it. The golf event isn't just a trip with the boys, it is yet another fundraising event for a different organization and a bunch of us have made it an annual thing - so all that is to say, it isn't something I can reschedule. But it's no big deal to me either way. I love going on that trip, but I wouldn't miss the Gala. And, while I have the complete freedom to go on the golf trip if I wanted, I also know that there are more important things in life such as being there with family for the big things. And, as a much lower priority, I also know from experience that my attendance at the Gala will buy me a lot of goodwill on the homefront. Totally worth it.
Anyway, thanks for all the responses. This has been hilarious!
Let me start by clarifying, I've been married long enough to know the right answer here. I'm just venting about the problem because you all will understand.
My wife is the founder and executive director of a non-profit in our area. They've been around for 10 years and they do a lot of good for a lot of people, and they have a ton of community involvement. Accordingly, they have several large fundraising events each year that are critical to their budget.
I have an annual golf trip I go on with my buddies. This trip occurs the first weekend in May each year.
(You already know where this is headed, right?) My wife's non-profit scheduled their big spring gala for the same weekend as my golf trip (she wasn't involved in the scheduling).
I mentioned the conflict and she said, with all sincerity, "you should just go on the trip".
Here's my question to you all: This feels like a trap, right?
Thanks in advance,
Mark
None of us can tell you the right answer, you know your wife better than any of us.....right?
That said, assuming you keep the buddy trip plans then offset the "damage" by doing something nice for the wife at the location of the gala....spa day, mani/pedi, flowers to the room, etc....but do it secretly.
You may still catch some slack for missing the gala, but it'll be reduced when you spontaneously show you care.
Good luck.
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And the award for Hater of the Year goes to......Thanks Dr. Phil.
And the award for Hater of the Year goes to......
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So is @Nate .... Kinda look alike too.I agree, Dr. Phil is terrible!!!!