Same with Batman, eh?
*Nerd Rant*
No not at all. Tony Stark had daddy issues because daddy didn't love him enough. Tony never saw a city/world his father was trying to protect, attack his father and mother.
Bruce Wayne was the son of a surgeon/philanthropist/industrialist who worked tirelessly to build Wayne Enterprises into a company that could help protect and better the lives of the people of Gotham. Thomas and Martha Wayne were gunned down by a desperate man (depending on which storyline you believe). A person that the Wayne's were trying to better, killed them.
Tony Stark turned to being a hero because an accident put shrapnel to close to his heart and he needed an electromagnet to continue to keep from dying. He saw a chance to use that as a means to build a suit and subsequently become a hero.
Batman saw his parent's as a shining example of the good of humanity, but not strong enough to over come a moment of weakness from another. Bruce Wayne trained to become Batman because he believed in Gotham and he believed that all people needed was a symbol to stand up with. He put on the suit because criminals are a superstitious and cowardly lot. He did all of this because he believes in the best of society, despite what he continues(d) to fight. Ironman felt unloved and accidented into becoming special.
No Batman is not just like Ironman.
/nerd rant