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Quick update: My son's counselor called today and said that he is already asking about coming home early. He made it through detox and now he thinks the next part of the journey will be easy. KellyBo and I have already booked a flight down for August 24th which cost us $400.00 plus bucks, which is non refundable. I also have to pay for my son's return flight home. For those of you who have been through something of this nature, why would he want to come home so early. If I talk to my son today I'm going to insist that he stay for the long haul. I think to allow him to cut his 30 day rehab short would be a huge mistake. I made it through six weeks of Army boot camp so I think he should be able to tough it out for 30 days of rehab. Thoughts on this are certainly welcomed.
Make him stick it out, complete his program. After that he needs to find an AA/NA group and attend 90 meetings in 90 days. He will need to be plugged in with a psychiatrist and a substance abuse counselor at discharge as well. The 90 meetings in 90 days is huge. Get a sponsor there and make it work.
Places like UNC have an intensive outpatient program that runs groups a few days a week to help manage substance abuse as well. That's a great option for the first few months as well.
Bill, I just found this thread. Guess my head has been up my ...you know. It looks like things are going in the right direction for your family. Just from my dealings with kids at school, it is good that he stays the full rehab. It's not good when they are in and out quickly, some things just take time.
I will see you folks tomorrow morning.
Quick update: My son's counselor called today and said that he is already asking about coming home early. He made it through detox and now he thinks the next part of the journey will be easy. KellyBo and I have already booked a flight down for August 24th which cost us $400.00 plus bucks, which is non refundable. I also have to pay for my son's return flight home. For those of you who have been through something of this nature, why would he want to come home so early. If I talk to my son today I'm going to insist that he stay for the long haul. I think to allow him to cut his 30 day rehab short would be a huge mistake. I made it through six weeks of Army boot camp so I think he should be able to tough it out for 30 days of rehab. Thoughts on this are certainly welcomed.
This is actually a tough one.
Most people want to leave rehab early because they ultimately want to revert back to their old abusing ways. Thus, we should force them to stay. HOWEVER, in my experience rehab only works if the addict voluntarily chooses to embrace it; they have to want to be clean. Thus, forcing him to stay may be wasted time / money because it won't lead to the end result you are hoping for. I really hope I am wrong and it works out differently for you. Also, this type of stuff and relapses are very common / normal. Addiction is really hard.
You are obviously good, loving parents and that goes a long way. I will continue to keep you in our prayers.I do agree that a person has to want to come clean. My son did ask me to put him into rehab as he was desperate. He did call me today and said, "Dad I am doing fine" which tells me he has decided to stay. KellyBo and I are going down August 24th for a nine hour group session with other parents/patients. It's a family day and we are looking forward to seeing what the program has done for my son. I know the road will be long and the load heavy but it's a choice we have made to hook up the mule and carry the load.
You are obviously good, loving parents and that goes a long way. I will continue to keep you in our prayers.
That's a pretty good attitude!I made it through six weeks of Army boot camp so I think he should be able to tough it out for 30 days of rehab. Thoughts on this are certainly welcomed.
Make him stick it out, complete his program. After that he needs to find an AA/NA group and attend 90 meetings in 90 days. He will need to be plugged in with a psychiatrist and a substance abuse counselor at discharge as well. The 90 meetings in 90 days is huge. Get a sponsor there and make it work.
Places like UNC have an intensive outpatient program that runs groups a few days a week to help manage substance abuse as well. That's a great option for the first few months as well.
This is actually a tough one.
Most people want to leave rehab early because they ultimately want to revert back to their old abusing ways. Thus, we should force them to stay. HOWEVER, in my experience rehab only works if the addict voluntarily chooses to embrace it; they have to want to be clean. Thus, forcing him to stay may be wasted time / money because it won't lead to the end result you are hoping for. I really hope I am wrong and it works out differently for you. Also, this type of stuff and relapses are very common / normal. Addiction is really hard.
Bill, it is good to see you are getting support here and it is helping you make good decisions. You son will only benefit from the good decisions you are making on his behalf.
OG, having gone thru this with a partner, don't agree to him leaving early. The counseling and "rules" at rehab provide important structure.
As soon as detox is done, folks generally feel better physically and want out of the restrictive environment, but it is that environment that will assist your son in staying on the road to recovery.
Good luck! Stay strong...