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Fingerz

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Today I played my usual haunt with someone that is still fairly new to golf. She has played approximately 25 rounds and half of those have been with me. We have had a decent pace throughout our games and today was no different.

Today however, we had a single playing behind us. It was 92* out so we didn't waste a lot of time not playing. The single was 1 to 2 holes behind us and had not caught up close enough to play through if he decided. We got to a par 3 that was 140 yards. We both got on from the tee. We were preparing to putt when the familiar sound of the ball hitting the green occurred about 2 feet behind me. The warning of 'fore' was not given. It was the single standing in the tee box. We holed out and went to the next hole, which was 6. She commented about it and I addressed her concerns but we played on. At hole 8, a 4 par, we where both in the fairway closing in on the green when I heard a 'thud' again. This time the ball is between her and I. About 10 feet or so from us. The same single.

I will admit that I was seeing red and I'm not the type to show a lot of emotion. But without saying anything I picked up the guy's ball and promptly threw it into the water nearby. The guy could not get down to us fast enough. Words were exchanged and ultimately the Marshall had to come out. Both the single and I are regulars and the Marshall didn't quite solve the issue. Yes, we both were wrong. But at what point is enough, well enough? I know the rules and try to play by them always. But I was angry over the incident. The manager called me an hour after we had finished and stated my next round will be free.

How would you have handled it?!
 
On the par 3 when the ball hit the green I would have looked back at him to let him see you acknowledged him.
I would have waited at the next tee box and let him play through since he caught up to you,, but I would have voiced my opinion about hitting into other players and told the marshal what happened.

( Then if he got lippy I would have put a 9 iron in his less than sunshine spot:p)
 
Fingerz said:
Today I played my usual haunt with someone that is still fairly new to golf. She has played approximately 25 rounds and half of those have been with me. We have had a decent pace throughout our games and today was no different.

Today however, we had a single playing behind us. It was 92* out so we didn't waste a lot of time not playing. The single was 1 to 2 holes behind us and had not caught up close enough to play through if he decided. We got to a par 3 that was 140 yards. We both got on from the tee. We were preparing to putt when the familiar sound of the ball hitting the green occurred about 2 feet behind me. The warning of 'fore' was not given. It was the single standing in the tee box. We holed out and went to the next hole, which was 6. She commented about it and I addressed her concerns but we played on. At hole 8, a 4 par, we where both in the fairway closing in on the green when I heard a 'thud' again. This time the ball is between her and I. About 10 feet or so from us. The same single.

I will admit that I was seeing red and I'm not the type to show a lot of emotion. But without saying anything I picked up the guy's ball and promptly threw it into the water nearby. The guy could not get down to us fast enough. Words were exchanged and ultimately the Marshall had to come out. Both the single and I are regulars and the Marshall didn't quite solve the issue. Yes, we both were wrong. But at what point is enough, well enough? I know the rules and try to play by them always. But I was angry over the incident. The manager called me an hour after we had finished and stated my next round will be free.

How would you have handled it?!
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That's unreal. I'm not sure I can appropriately frame a response to that, but getting angry and having words is in my opinion not out of line. No blows were thrown, and tossing the ball in the lake is not an overreaction.
 
Depends on how my round was going. But I prob would have done something similar
 
I'd have waited after the par 3 and had a word with him. In saying that though I don't think you were wrong to throw his ball in lake. My dad from time to time would get aggro and hit the offending players ball straight back at them with a 3wood, lol. It took a fair bit to get him to that point, usually no shout of fore and repeatedly bombing balls up their arses but once he was angry enough it was a sight to behold.
 
Usually if that happens to me numerous times, I walk over and hit the ball back in their direction with a wedge or whatever will come up 100 yds short of them.

They usually get the point when you show them how close they really were
 
He teed off on a par 3 with people standing on the green. That's no accident. I've inadvertently hit into people (usually not in front of me), so I'm pretty understanding. In this case, I would have wanted to know what the eff was wrong with him.
 
You definitely should have addressed it with him after the par 3 and then let him play through.
 
The first time it happened, I would have put the other guy's golf ball in my pocket and returned it to him personally by walking back to where he was, along with a pointed conversation to tell him that if he wants to play through, he should get my attention by doing something other than firing a golf ball at me.
 
You handled it better then I would have.

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it would have ended one of two ways after the first time:

1) an apology from him as I let him play through
2) me being escorted off the golf course
 
You did well, imho. Much better than I did last time someone hit into me a second time.
 
He tee'd off on a par 3 when you were still putting out?? Sorry, but that's unforgivable! His ball would have been getting acquainted with my driver had that been me! I thi I you showed remarkable restraint waiting until he did it again.
 
Blatantly hitting into someone twice, without so much as a heads up, is not only bad etiquette but dangerous. I can understand your frustration and I don't blame you for what you did.
 
nah you handled it good, he's lucky he didnt get dropped, same deal happend to me a few weeks ago....hit into us on 17..(started on 10) then hit in again to us on 1, i said cant say sorry? he didnt even get a chance to say anything before i said " next time you'll be sorry." needless to say, they didnt hit into us again.
 
There is absolutely no excuse to hit into a group putting out on a par 3. None. I would have been beyond livid, including a call into the clubhouse with the expectation of him being removed from the course.

That is just shameful.
 
When you threw it into the water, I would have calmly walked up to the ball, set myself up, done a couple club waggles, and club an 8i into a nearby lake. Then put the club in my bag and drive off.

I generally avoid altercations, but almost causing pretty decent injury to you by hitting into you not once but TWICE is absolutely ridiculous. It's idiots like those who don't belong anywhere near a golf course.
 
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Wow.... Totally uncalled for. Let it go and move on buddy
 
arydolphin said:
The first time it happened, I would have put the other guy's golf ball in my pocket and returned it to him personally by walking back to where he was, along with a pointed conversation to tell him that if he wants to play through, he should get my attention by doing something other than firing a golf ball at me.
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This would have been a great way to handle it and would be the way I would have handled it.
 
My response wouldn't have been the correct one but it would have gone something like this.

"Hey man, we're happy to let you play through, because if you hit into us again I'm going to hit a knock down 2-iron back at you."
 
I would have put the ball on a tee on the green. Hoping he'd get the idea from that. Once he hit into me a second time especially putting the ball 10 ft away I would have probably hit the ball back at him. Wrong yes but to me that's ridiculous. Had a similar incident happen today at my home course. The range is basically just a warm up range. The range used to have a net and it was about 175 yards out. Well for whatever reason they took the net down and now 180+ ball is landing in 2's fairway. Kid was hitting driver and landed one ball pretty close to me. I threw my hands up and nothing. Did it again and gave out a loud "yo" with my hands up and he stopped. Had he hit another one I would have hit a ball back at him.
 
Sometimes you need to be the bigger person.

Don't get me wrong, I have done the hitting the ball back, followed up yelling and shouting. At no time have I felt better having done so, it only served to make me angrier and thrown me off my game even more.

He shouldn't have hit into you on the par 3. That's just jerky. You would have been better served to let the person play through though, but also make sure to alert the marshall or clubhouse to the goings on.

Knowingly hitting with the chance of reaching the next group is just careless and completely stupid. If potentially hurting someone is the acceptable way you voice frustration over not being allowed to play though, then that person should seriously give their head a shake.
 
I would have voiced my opinion from the par 3 green. Hitting into people on a par 3 is not something any golfer should do.

The second incident would meant me and him would have had stern words. FWIW you handled the situation very well. I wouldn't have thrown his ball in the water. I would have kept it and if i ever seen him again i'd hand it back to him with a big smile on my face. That was it will mess with his head
 
Sitting on my couch, I can tell you that you should of simply let him play through after the par 3, and trying to politely tell him he should of waited and you didn't appreciate it. If this didn't happen, I would of done the same while waiting at his ball on number 8, trying to again politely tell him you didn't appreciate it and it shouldn't happen twice.

BUT....what you did might of been the best decision on the list of things not to do. Sounds like no fowl language was shouted, no fists where through or threats. So of the 10 things that could of happened, you did number 1 if number 10 is the worst thing you could of done.

I've been there before. A group was a hole ahead of us, and number 7 and 8 run parallel in opposite directions, on number 7 we had 2 balls hit a tree close to us. Another 1 hit the wood on the side of the tee box and saved us from being hit. We didn't say anything then just threw hands in the air and tried dirty looks. Then blew it off. Well they were on 10, we were on 9, same 2 hole set up. We were hit again twice again. Luckily the worst I did was knock the guys ball into the tree. Not the right thing, but it could of been worse IMO. Same with your situation.
 
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