I have always found when playing an alternate shot format with someone, Its always better to discuss the comfortable distance with your partner before hand. Then when you are on the tee, quick recap of, "where the bunkers and water are on that hole" and set me over there anywhere" and i will adapt.
I have played with someone before and he said," I am trying to hit the fairway, and you are talking about a spot in the fairway"....than theres that
I have played with someone before and he said," I am trying to hit the fairway, and you are talking about a spot in the fairway"....than theres that