Fingerz
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Hello all,
Can someone please advise me on what to do if I'm ever in this situation again? I'm open to all comments.
Background: I have played for the last few years but usually with the same group or alone. This past weekend I played with a co-worker who is a beginner. This was her 7th or 8th game and we were having a decent game. Prior to playing, she took about 15 lessons over a period of 3 months. So our games have progressed along nicely without losing any balls or spending time searching the weeds for them. The course was a public one and we pretty much had it to ourselves. We had made it to hole 4 before I realize a single had popped out of now where and was right behind us. After we teeing off, on hole 4, he asked to join while we were in the fairway. I was hesitant but said ok and that we were playing a very casual game. Because she is new to golf, I didn't want any pressure of scoring or anything else to scare her away. He said ok.
This guy ran through the holes like he only had 30 minutes of life left on earth. By the time we got to hole 6, I could tell she was no longer having 'fun' and neither was I. She wasn't striking the ball like I had seen her do. After talking to her I found out that we both felt rushed by this guy and it just through our game off. She said she felt nervous and uncomfortable in general. It was as if we were holding the guy up. It was so bad that after teeing off on hole 7, we just picked the ball up in the fairway and left. I was upset with myself for just quiting once I thought about it at home.
So my question is how do you deal with that situation? What is proper? Could I have told him to just play through or that we wanted to relax a bit more? I had never experienced it before and I didn't quite know what to tell my friend.
Fingerz
Can someone please advise me on what to do if I'm ever in this situation again? I'm open to all comments.
Background: I have played for the last few years but usually with the same group or alone. This past weekend I played with a co-worker who is a beginner. This was her 7th or 8th game and we were having a decent game. Prior to playing, she took about 15 lessons over a period of 3 months. So our games have progressed along nicely without losing any balls or spending time searching the weeds for them. The course was a public one and we pretty much had it to ourselves. We had made it to hole 4 before I realize a single had popped out of now where and was right behind us. After we teeing off, on hole 4, he asked to join while we were in the fairway. I was hesitant but said ok and that we were playing a very casual game. Because she is new to golf, I didn't want any pressure of scoring or anything else to scare her away. He said ok.
This guy ran through the holes like he only had 30 minutes of life left on earth. By the time we got to hole 6, I could tell she was no longer having 'fun' and neither was I. She wasn't striking the ball like I had seen her do. After talking to her I found out that we both felt rushed by this guy and it just through our game off. She said she felt nervous and uncomfortable in general. It was as if we were holding the guy up. It was so bad that after teeing off on hole 7, we just picked the ball up in the fairway and left. I was upset with myself for just quiting once I thought about it at home.
So my question is how do you deal with that situation? What is proper? Could I have told him to just play through or that we wanted to relax a bit more? I had never experienced it before and I didn't quite know what to tell my friend.
Fingerz