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How does you significant other feel about golf...and the time you spend on it?

nerfny said:
I can say I know ddec loves that I play. One because he has a built in playing partner and two because I understand why he loves it so much. This is coming from someone who swore she would never play or understand the game.
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Can you have a little talk with my wife please?
 
Hawk said:
Erica supports me having a hobby and doing something active, but I do sense she that the time I spend on golf related things can annoy her at times. It's a balancing act that I've gotten pretty good at. That being said, we both have our interests and allow each other to pursue them happily. I think it's unhealthy to stifle people from their passions and we talked about that very thing early on when we started dating. Gotta have your 'me time'.
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The main issue for me is that my wife does not have a hobby. This makes me look selfish
 
ddxu said:
My wife is awesome. She loves that I have a legal hobby where I can get my guy time and dont get arrested. No, she doesnt like 36 hole benders on the weekend, but she doesnt mind me playing & practicing 1-2 times a week. She even likes watching golf (easy to nap to), likes riding along while I play during the evenings, and enjoys playing in some BS couples events.

(So she doesnt know how often I ho clubs, thats between me and PayPal.)
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This is probably my one and only beef although I do not say anything about it other than "I miss you on Saturdays". OG loves his buddy time on Saturdays but he can be gone from 7:30 until 4:30. He came home after 18 last Saturday and shocked me! I do wish Saturdays were not written in stone but they pretty much are for the entire year unless something REALLY important comes up.
 
Chunkylover77 said:
The main issue for me is that my wife does not have a hobby. This makes me look selfish
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Maybe you are her hobby? When you are out golfing, she has nothing to do.
 
nerfny said:
Send her on over.
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We are coming up that way this weekend..haha She is from Latham. We have to go to a wedding in Rotterdam this weekend but next time we come up for a weekend to visit her family I am going to hopefully play some golf with Dean. Maybe you can sweet talk my wife..haha
 
My wife loves the idea of me playing golf because it is a way of exercise for me. The part that she hates is the Market Place, Golf Galaxy, Ebay....:act-up:
 
DevRickus said:
We are coming up that way this weekend..haha She is from Latham. We have to go to a wedding in Rotterdam this weekend but next time we come up for a weekend to visit her family I am going to hopefully play some golf with Dean. Maybe you can sweet talk my wife..haha
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We can try to go to dinner after you guys golf and I can talk to her then.
 
Chunkylover77 said:
The main issue for me is that my wife does not have a hobby. This makes me look selfish
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My ex-wife was similar and I had a hard time relating to that. Hobbies and all that make life interesting. I'm sure it's tough dude. Like I said, Erica is about as supporting as they come, but she even gets a little testy if I'm not careful.
 
nerfny said:
We can try to go to dinner after you guys golf and I can talk to her then.
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Sounds like a plan. She is coming even if I have to tie her up..haha Funny thing is, she played golf in high school and is pretty good at it, but she just isnt interested in making it a hobby for whatever reason. My daughter is 1 month old now so I am giving her until she is 6 months before she starts practicing..haha
 
Chunkylover77 said:
I am pondering getting her a set of used womans clubs to try and get her out there
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Not a bad idea. But then you run the risk of her asking you why you continue to play so much when you are so terrible at the game.
 
War Eagle said:
Not a bad idea. But then you run the risk of her asking you why you continue to play so much when you are so terrible at the game.
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To get better of course. Or to spend quality time with her
 
My wife HATES my addiction to golf. So much that I almost gave up the game and started a thread about it. http://www.thehackersparadise.com/forum/showthread.php?33145-I-m-considering-giving-up-the-game Long story short:

I suggested a golf allowance and she agreed. I get $150 a month to spend on golf. How I spend it is up to me. If I spend it all on a fancy round of golf, so be it. If I spend it on a club, so be it. Anything left at the end of the month carries over to the next. I am extremely happy with this agreement. I should be able to play at least once every 2 weeks and still have money for stuff like balls, gloves, etc. So far it's been working out. The best part is that I don't play over the winter, but I still get the allowance. Come spring I have like $800-$900 saved up!
 
Chunkylover77 said:
To get better of course. Or to spend quality time with her
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Dean used the quality time reason on me to start. Can is say take her to the range for a while before ever bringing her near a course.
 
I remember OG being aggravated that we were going to a wedding that was at 3pm on a Saturday. He fussed and fussed about why anyone would schedule a wedding in the middle of the day on a Saturday. This is the kind of stuff that annoys me. There is more to life than golf. Haha.
 
She loves the fact I golf. Buying clubs and stuff all the time not so much but playing golf, no problem. As a matter of fact any course reviews I have done she took the pictures for. She drives the cart (everywhere but a few tee boxes at Jasper Park Lodge) and when I pull out a wedge around the green she says "you know what to do wife" and meets me on the green with my putter.
I think she loves the fact my back is good enough to golf again and that I am out getting exercise.
 
I hate to read these threads because it bums me out to know that some people have such a hard time getting out to do what they love.
 
Hawk said:
I hate to read these threads because it bums me out to know that some people have such a hard time getting out to do what they love.
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Its okay. When its time to retire and we move to FL she will never see me. I will be making up for all the years of not playing...haha
 
I have the coolest wife in the world and she fully supports me. She just wished it wasn't so time consuming and I would ha e to agree with her.
 
Hawk said:
My ex-wife was similar and I had a hard time relating to that. Hobbies and all that make life interesting. I'm sure it's tough dude. Like I said, Erica is about as supporting as they come, but she even gets a little testy if I'm not careful.
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I can totally understand this being an issue. As I said in the OP my wife fully support and encourages my golf addiction but then again she has her own hobbies that I in turn fully support. I guess it's hard to make it give and take if it isn't really possible to give...
 
Hawk said:
I hate to read these threads because it bums me out to know that some people have such a hard time getting out to do what they love.
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That was one of the issues I had with my ex wife. I basicly gave up the game other than the rare round with my dad or trip to the range. It was easier for me to not argue and not care that I was missing out than it was to argue. So I just let it go. She didn't have any hobbies or anything to do, so I busted my butt around the house on my days off so she had time to find hobbies, never happened. Now I have a great g/f who is the complete opposite and almost gets mad at me for not going to the course or the range on nice day.
 
JRod said:
I have the coolest wife in the world and she fully supports me. She just wished it wasn't so time consuming and I would ha e to agree with her.
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This is the way it is with me. I feel bad sometimes when I am gone for 6 hours for a round. I have been looking into joining a private club to shorten my time away.
 
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