Was spraying the amp cell all over the place yesterday, ugh.
Played my old cobra on 18 and ripped it about 280 with the roll out. I hate wanting to put that old gamer back in the bag.
To sum it up:
Need lessons, bad...
Hate when my kids do that.
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Was spraying the amp cell all over the place yesterday, ugh.
Played my old cobra on 18 and ripped it about 280 with the roll out. I hate wanting to put that old gamer back in the bag.
To sum it up:
Need lessons, bad...
From what I can tell, there will be two sessions with a developmental pediatrician. From there I don't know what to expect. He starts kindergarten in the fall so it's a double edged sword to me. I don't want there to be anything found but if there can be a diagnosis made of some kind then it's likely the school system can get a plan in place for him from the outset. And since it sounds like it may be more of a when than if he gets a diagnosis I'd rather just get that over with.
I also know that it could be a lot worse. His worst case scenario has him in the very high functioning part of the spectrum. He's really smart. And when he's all there, you can see it in his eyes. He's happy most of the time. I know deep down he will be just fine in life. He just may take a different path to get there.
My brother's son sounds similar to your son. They were told he might have Aspergers, but once they did all of the genetic testing, they found nothing. He does not show any signs both physically or mentally of Down Syndrome, but they have not been able to "label" him with anything specifically. He is now 7 (or 8) and will be in 1st or 2nd grade next fall. He's a good kid, he can read (mostly), he has some problems with verbal communication but he can tell you what he wants. He knows I'm "Uncle James" but he won't go out of the way to say "hi" to me. He's a GREAT kid, GREAT KID, and he's very loved by his Mom and Dad, and Grandparents.
Bottom line is, as long as you guys give him all the love and support in the world, that's all he REALLY needs, and I can tell that's what you're going to do. No matter what you find out, and THAT is the TRUE measure of a Dad (and Mom) in my eyes. I'll be thinking about you. If you want, I could give you my brother's email address as I'm sure he would be more than happy to chat with you about what you're going through.
Thanks for that. My wife, who has a researching background, has been doing a ton of reading on this. She thinks that Aspergers is not likely, there are so many "classic" signs of that that Zach doesn't show. I'm trying to stay away from overthinking it. One thing I wonder is if he is "only" diagnosed with ADHD will the school system support that with an IEP? At least for now, he is going to require the extra attention (or extra hands at least) because his attention span is a big problem at times (bigger than his siblings - even the younger ones, the only real comparison points I have).
His first appointment is on Monday, mainly the intake session.
Hello all.
I have a 6 week old (first) and NOW understand the troubles of getting out to play. I used to think the wife could handle it for 4-5 hours and then I'd take her and she could go off on her own and do her thing...LOL. I used to practice short game every day after work, have a full range session once per week and play every weekend. Since she's been born I've played 3 times with zero practice or range sessions . I think it's particularly difficult to swallow because my best friend (and playing partner), who happened to have a son 6 weeks before us, has a wife that plays tennis. Thus he watches the baby when she plays and then she watches him while he plays golf. This is a weekly thing so he gets to play EVERY week. My wife doesn't have any hobby like that so my rounds are difficult to get in. I always scoffed at the notion that my rounds might dwindle down to 1-2 times per month but it seems that this is the direction I am heading which is sad because my game is without question at an all time high.
With the baby being so young and needing attention pretty much 24/7, I'm hoping that when she gets to be 6 months or so (and can be put in a swing or playpen and can entertain herself for an hour here or there) getting out for a round every week might again become a possibility. In the meantime, since I can't play I've begun buying golf clothes and shoes as if I'm on tour. Planning outfits from top to bottom lol. All dressed up with nowhere to go.
I have a 6 week old (first) and NOW understand the troubles of getting out to play. I used to think the wife could handle it for 4-5 hours and then I'd take her and she could go off on her own and do her thing...LOL.
You life and wife sound a LOT like mine. I'm sorry to tell you this, but if you continue down this path...as I did....it's not going to change. I know that's not what you want to read, but it's the truth. My wife has no hobbies (like yours) and thus is a "home body" person. I was not raised this way, and so when my golf habit went from 1 or 2 times a week, down to once a month, down to every other month. That sucks a LOT. You're lucky that you live in Florida, as I do not. So, when Winter gets here and there is no golf anyway, it gets worse.
Here is my suggestion. Force your wife to get out of the house and do something...anything! When she's gone, and you have the kid, you need to earn brownie points. So, pick up the house, do the dishes, fold and put away laundry...ANYTING that will earn you those points, you're going to want to stock pile those!!! Now, talk with your wife, lay out some times for you to play or at least practice. Don't make this about you though, tell her your trying to make some "me time" for you, but also schedule some for her too. This is key, you don't want to make it appear you're not thinking of her too.
If you have another kid, things will get worse for your golf habit, I'm telling you this now so you know. I have two AWESOME little girls (5 & 3) so I know these things. It would wise to invest in a hitting net and hitting mat and DON'T skimp on those, they will end up being your best friends. Also, if you can work it in your budget, or start putting some cash back (as I have). You might want to invest in a Trackman or something similar that you can afford. When you start hitting a LOT of ball into your net, you won't see the true flight you hitting them, so having something that will SHOW you this, will help.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but I thought you needed to know this before it gets worse.
Good luck!
Let me ask this...do i sound like a total jerk when I say that I love my daughter and wife but at this point my day to day life kinda sucks because I work full-time then take care of the baby, barely have time to eat, completely stopped going to the gym (can't leave the wife with the baby even longer), and barely get to partake in my one real hobby? I feel like I've kinda lost my identity and now I AM a father instead of just being a father (It's become who I am instead of what I do). I realize it's still early and things hopefully will get better but because I'd like to remain an individual I honestly don't want to have another kid at this point.
End rant. Thanks for listening.
Let me ask this...do i sound like a total jerk when I say that I love my daughter and wife but at this point my day to day life kinda sucks because I work full-time then take care of the baby, barely have time to eat, completely stopped going to the gym (can't leave the wife with the baby even longer), and barely get to partake in my one real hobby? I feel like I've kinda lost my identity and now I AM a father instead of just being a father (It's become who I am instead of what I do). I realize it's still early and things hopefully will get better but because I'd like to remain an individual I honestly don't want to have another kid at this point.
Let me ask this...do i sound like a total jerk when I say that I love my daughter and wife but at this point my day to day life kinda sucks because I work full-time then take care of the baby, barely have time to eat, completely stopped going to the gym (can't leave the wife with the baby even longer), and barely get to partake in my one real hobby? I feel like I've kinda lost my identity and now I AM a father instead of just being a father (It's become who I am instead of what I do). I realize it's still early and things hopefully will get better but because I'd like to remain an individual I honestly don't want to have another kid at this point.
End rant. Thanks for listening.
Great post. In my opinion this is pretty much exactly correct.No you do not sound like a jerk at all. You sound like a human being. Most of the people who follow this thread have been in your shoes at least one time, many more. I've been there four times now. Until you are a parent, you have no idea how hard being a parent is, especially mentally. But it also IS your new identity. That is, and will be, your new reality for the rest of your life. I say embrace it.
I can't tell you how many times I've said this. Literally.Don't know how single parents can do it every day. With Erica sick I have been solo since Friday afternoon and I am officially beat down.
Don't know how single parents can do it every day. With Erica sick I have been solo since Friday afternoon and I am officially beat down.
I've just recently gone through this. We had two girls two years apart. After the first one my golf time stayed the same because there was not a second child in the mix. With number two I found myself practicing more vs playing because is was less time away.
I will say this for the first 6 months or so it will suck. Your life is about the kids and finding that balance. Being a father is the best and hardest thing you will ever do, but the most rewarding.
In terms of golf this is what I did. I cleaned the house, did laundry and cooked. I took everything off my wife's plate and the only thing she had to worry about was taking care of the girls. I had a frank conversation with my wife and explained golf was more than just "time out of the house" & I needed to play/practice. We found common ground and she is even doing things more now with her friends and I keep the girls for 4-5 hours at a time.
Early on it will be tough and you just have to weather the storm. I think communication is huge and you just have to talk and be honest with each other.